Why Betrayal Triggers Codependency and Avoidance (and How to Heal)

“When a woman discovers betrayal—infidelity, hidden porn use, or emotional dishonesty—her entire inner world cracks. The relationship breaks, but so does her sense of who she is” Dr. Trish Leigh

Overthinking. People-pleasing. Avoiding. Shutting down. Patterns you never had before.

If you’ve felt this shift, take a breath.
You’re not weak or dramatic.
Your brain is responding to trauma in the only way it knows how 

But it can heal and you can make it happen!

What Women Want Most After Betrayal

Women who have been betrayed share one deep desire:

To feel like themselves again — confident, grounded, and safe inside their own body.

You want:

These are not luxuries.
These are the foundations of a regulated nervous system.

Meet Your Guide — Dr. Trish Leigh

Dr. Trish Leigh has spent over 25 years helping women heal from betrayal through neuroscience-based tools that retrain:

Through qEEG Brain Mapping and structured coaching, she shows women exactly how betrayal affects their brain—and how to repair it.

She understands the pain because she sees its signature in brain scans every week.

Why Betrayal Triggers Codependency and Avoidance

Betrayal creates three layers of struggle:
an external wound, an internal collapse, and a philosophical violation of identity.

You were blindsided by:

The person who was supposed to keep you safe became the source of danger.

The Loss of Self

Your brain shifts into survival mode, creating thoughts like:

This fuels:

Codependency: Over-functioning, appeasing, managing his emotions to feel safe.

Avoidance: Numbing, disconnecting, avoiding conflict, shutting down.

Both are trauma responses—your brain’s attempt to protect you.

You Deserve Safety and Honesty

Betrayal violates a core truth:

You are worthy of love, honesty, and emotional security.

Healing begins when your brain reconnects with that truth.

Your 3-Step Brain-Based Plan to Heal Codependency and Avoidance

Step 1 — Stop the Shame Loop

Shame keeps women stuck in survival mode.
Stopping the loop means:

This is the foundation of healing.

Step 2 — Rewire Self-Belief Patterns

Betrayal rewires the brain for fear and hypervigilance.
Healing rewires it for:

This is where identity returns.

Step 3 — Build Forward Momentum

As the nervous system regulates, strength re-emerges.

Forward momentum looks like:

Your future becomes bigger than your past.

Take the Next Step Toward Healing

👉 Join Sanity After Betrayal — the neuroscience-based program for women healing from infidelity and hidden sexual behaviors.


👉 Or book a qEEG Brain Map to see exactly how betrayal has impacted your brain.

.What Life Looks Like After 

Imagine:

Your brain learns new patterns.
Your identity returns.
Your confidence becomes unshakeable.

What Happens If You Don’t Heal the Trauma Patterns

Without targeted intervention, the brain often remains stuck in:

But nothing about this is permanent.
Your brain is plastic. Healing is always possible.

Take Your Step Forward Today

Your story is not over.
Your identity is not lost.
Your confidence can return stronger than ever.

👉 Join Sanity After Betrayal
 👉 Schedule your qEEG Brain Map

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